(Terjemahan Indonesia di bagian bawah)
You're about to start a new school and want to make friends there. What do you do? Here are some tips on how to meet people and make friends at a new school and how to adjust to your new surroundings.
Difficulty: Average
Time Required: 30 minutes per day -- more if you can
Here's How:
1. Be as confident as you can, but avoid being pushy or cocky. There's nothing that attracts people more than someone who's secure in who they are and has a fairly positive attitude about life in general and other people's ideas, too.
2. Smile and laugh. It sounds like a no-brainer, but it really works: Make eye contact with others, smile at them when they look at you, and laugh when they say something that's funny or amusing to you. It's a great conversation starter, and it makes you seem friendly and approachable.
3. Invite others to do things. In a lot of cases, you'll need to make the first move to find potential friends. Ask some people to share a table at lunch or study hall, borrow or lend a sheet of notebook paper, ask someone to be your volleyball partner in gym class -- you get the idea. Once you've found a few people you like, ask them to grab a bit to eat or play video games after school.
4. Join some clubs and activities. A new school and a new group of classmates offer a great opportunities to explore some new interests. Try out for a school play or sports team, join the yearbook committee or try attending a few school-sponsored volunteer activities through groups such as Key Club or Circle K. You're virtually guaranteed to meet people who share your interests -- and are looking to make new friends, too.
5. Have an opinion. Are you a die-hard fan of the Chicago Bears or "Gossip Girl"? Are you passionate about helping the homeless or preventing destruction of the rainforest? Speak up. Offer your opinions in class and share your unique viewpoints in conversation. As others what their opinions are. People will remember you in no time -- and want to talk to you and, most likely, hang out to get to know you better.
6. Remember people's names. Do your best to remember other people's names and interests. More importantly, don't be afraid to ask people more than once what their names are. Say something like, "I remember you said something really interesting about X yesterday and wanted to talk about it some more, but I'm new here and don't remember your name yet. Could you remind me what it is?"
Tips:
1. Give yourself a little pep talk before you approach new people: You're an interesting and unique person who'd make a great friend. That's an offer they can't refuse!
2. Point out things that you have in common with other people. Does the girl sitting next to you live in your neighborhood? Is the guy at the locker next to yours listening to the same things as you on his iPod? Introduce yourself, say that you're new, and ask them about themselves -- and the thing that you have in common.
3. Don't be too hard on yourself. Making new friends takes a lot of time and effort. Let things play out naturally and be patient. In the meantime, rely on your family and, if you can, friends from your old school or neighborhood until you get situated at your new school (and afterwards, too, of course).
4. Be a good listener. Being a good listener helps you relate better to other people, wins their confidence, and helps you be a better friend. It also shows that you're not self-centered.
5. Be sensitive to others' strengths, weaknesses and needs. Don't make friends by picking on other people's flaws: It will most likely come back to haunt you. It's more helpful to focus on what other people are good at and find ways you can help balance out their weaker areas. For instance, is a classmate nervous about the next science test? Offer to study with them or tell them about a time you were nervous about a test but succeeded (and that they can succeed, too).
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Showing posts with label Friends. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Friends. Show all posts
Monday, December 7, 2009
How To Approach a Friend in Trouble
Cra Mendekati Teman yg sedang ada masalh
(Terjemahan Indonesia di bagian bawah)
Friends can struggle with all sorts of difficult issues: health troubles, eating disorders, drug problems, the loss of a parent or even depression. How should you approach a friend who seems troubled, especially if you're not exactly sure what's wrong?
Difficulty: Hard
Time Required: A lot: It depends what your friend needs and wants from you.
Here's How:
1. Make sure you have evidence that your friend has a problem. Have you noticed a major change in their behavior? Have other people witnessed any changes in their behavior or given you clues about what the problem might be? Or, is it possible that your friend is just in a bad mood?
2. If you have reason to believe your friend is in trouble, think of a genuine way to state your concern. A statement such as "I noticed you've been feeling kind of down lately and acting different from usual" could be a good starting point, just be sure you can back up your claim about a change in your friend's behavior. They're likely to ask you how they seem different.
3. Prepare yourself for a bad reaction from your friend: It's quite possible that they will deny having a problem, get defensive or feel embarrassed because they've been trying to hide the problem in an effort to seem normal to others.
4. If your friend is not willing to discuss the problem with you, tell them that you care about them and are willing to talk when they're ready.
5. Approach them again about the problem after a few days or weeks. Remind them again that you are ready to talk when they are and that no problem is too big or scary for your friendship. Your friend may fear that you will leave them if the problem is a serious one: Emphasize that you are ready to stay with them and stick up for them.
6. If your friend is willing to share details about the problem, listen calmly and carefully. As them how the problem began and how they are feeling about it. Ask them what you can do to help.
7. If necessary, encourage your friend to talk to a counselor, a doctor or a parent. Offer to go with them for moral support.
8. If your friend refuses to talk about the problem and it seems to be getting worse, you may need to ask a parent, teacher, counselor or someone your friend trusts very much for help.
Tips:
1. Do not jump to conclusions about what your friend's problem may be.
2. Avoid spreading gossip or starting rumors about what might be troubling your friend.
3. Unless the situation gets more serious, try to get your friend to talk about the problem with you before getting others involved.
4. However, if your friend threatens to hurt themself or someone else, you must call 911 or a suicide hotline, take them to a hospital, or at the very least tell an adult.
5. Remember, being there for your friend to listen and support them is the absolute best thing you can do for them!
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(Terjemahan Indonesia di bagian bawah)
Friends can struggle with all sorts of difficult issues: health troubles, eating disorders, drug problems, the loss of a parent or even depression. How should you approach a friend who seems troubled, especially if you're not exactly sure what's wrong?
Difficulty: Hard
Time Required: A lot: It depends what your friend needs and wants from you.
Here's How:
1. Make sure you have evidence that your friend has a problem. Have you noticed a major change in their behavior? Have other people witnessed any changes in their behavior or given you clues about what the problem might be? Or, is it possible that your friend is just in a bad mood?
2. If you have reason to believe your friend is in trouble, think of a genuine way to state your concern. A statement such as "I noticed you've been feeling kind of down lately and acting different from usual" could be a good starting point, just be sure you can back up your claim about a change in your friend's behavior. They're likely to ask you how they seem different.
3. Prepare yourself for a bad reaction from your friend: It's quite possible that they will deny having a problem, get defensive or feel embarrassed because they've been trying to hide the problem in an effort to seem normal to others.
4. If your friend is not willing to discuss the problem with you, tell them that you care about them and are willing to talk when they're ready.
5. Approach them again about the problem after a few days or weeks. Remind them again that you are ready to talk when they are and that no problem is too big or scary for your friendship. Your friend may fear that you will leave them if the problem is a serious one: Emphasize that you are ready to stay with them and stick up for them.
6. If your friend is willing to share details about the problem, listen calmly and carefully. As them how the problem began and how they are feeling about it. Ask them what you can do to help.
7. If necessary, encourage your friend to talk to a counselor, a doctor or a parent. Offer to go with them for moral support.
8. If your friend refuses to talk about the problem and it seems to be getting worse, you may need to ask a parent, teacher, counselor or someone your friend trusts very much for help.
Tips:
1. Do not jump to conclusions about what your friend's problem may be.
2. Avoid spreading gossip or starting rumors about what might be troubling your friend.
3. Unless the situation gets more serious, try to get your friend to talk about the problem with you before getting others involved.
4. However, if your friend threatens to hurt themself or someone else, you must call 911 or a suicide hotline, take them to a hospital, or at the very least tell an adult.
5. Remember, being there for your friend to listen and support them is the absolute best thing you can do for them!
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Sunday, December 6, 2009
How To Find True Friends
Bagaimana cara menemukan sahabat sejati
(Terjemahan Indonesia di bagian bawah)
8 Qualities of a Good Friend
What are the qualities of a good friend? True friendships can start instantly but they take time to build. Here are a few qualities to look for when making friends as a teen -- and beyond.
1. A good friend is honest.
A good friend may not share every detail of every second of their life, but they do try to be clear about their intentions. This means that they try to present an accurate picture of who they are and of different situations. When something doesn't seem right, they let you know.
2. A good friend is fun, unique and interesting.
OK, this is a given, and probably the reason you became friends in the first place. But there's a lot to be said for chemistry and shared interests.
As for fun, it depends how you define it: Some friends are fun because they're the life of the party, others are fun because they notice every strange little detail about a situation. Some people are fun simply because they see life like no one else does.
3. A good friend is attentive and adaptable.
A good friend is at least a fairly good listener and notices how little, day-to-day things affect you. They can't read your mind, but chances are they can usually tell when you're happy, sad, excited, shocked or upset. If they're aware that they're doing something that annoys you, they try to change their ways or at least talk to you about it.
4. A good friend is supportive of you and your goals.
Sure, your friend may think you're cool, but are they on the same page as you? Do they know what you want most out of life? A really good friend will know what makes you tick and help you become the person you want to be. They won't try to change who you are or drag you into situations that make you uncomfortable or put you at risk of losing something that matters to you.
5. A good friend is a friend you can trust.
A true friend won't try to steal your girlfriend or boyfriend, your job or your personality. They won't gossip about you constantly or try to damage your reputation. They will let you know when they're concerned and do their best to stick up for you when you're in trouble.
6. A good friend makes it clear that they care about you.
Different people may have different ways of letting you know that they care about you. One person may give you a big hug whereas another person might gently tease you. A big clue that someone cares is that they talk to you fairly often and, in general, know what's going on in your life and act interested about it.
7. A good friend sticks with you in good times and bad.
Loyalty is a quality almost everyone lists when asked what they look for in a friend. A loyal friend will stick with you when your new play is a flop, when you bomb the SATs or when your parents get divorced. If you move or switch schools, they'll do their best to stay in touch with you.
8. A good friend accepts you for who you are, even when you're being a butthead.
In friendship, being accepting goes hand in hand with being loyal. A true friend rolls with the punches as you grow and change and know how to deal with your quirks and faults.
They are also patient with you when you make mistakes -- even big ones -- and learn how to forgive you when you hurt them. In other words, they treat you as you'd like to be treated, even when you aren't at your best.
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(Terjemahan Indonesia di bagian bawah)
8 Qualities of a Good Friend
What are the qualities of a good friend? True friendships can start instantly but they take time to build. Here are a few qualities to look for when making friends as a teen -- and beyond.
1. A good friend is honest.
A good friend may not share every detail of every second of their life, but they do try to be clear about their intentions. This means that they try to present an accurate picture of who they are and of different situations. When something doesn't seem right, they let you know.
2. A good friend is fun, unique and interesting.
OK, this is a given, and probably the reason you became friends in the first place. But there's a lot to be said for chemistry and shared interests.
As for fun, it depends how you define it: Some friends are fun because they're the life of the party, others are fun because they notice every strange little detail about a situation. Some people are fun simply because they see life like no one else does.
3. A good friend is attentive and adaptable.
A good friend is at least a fairly good listener and notices how little, day-to-day things affect you. They can't read your mind, but chances are they can usually tell when you're happy, sad, excited, shocked or upset. If they're aware that they're doing something that annoys you, they try to change their ways or at least talk to you about it.
4. A good friend is supportive of you and your goals.
Sure, your friend may think you're cool, but are they on the same page as you? Do they know what you want most out of life? A really good friend will know what makes you tick and help you become the person you want to be. They won't try to change who you are or drag you into situations that make you uncomfortable or put you at risk of losing something that matters to you.
5. A good friend is a friend you can trust.
A true friend won't try to steal your girlfriend or boyfriend, your job or your personality. They won't gossip about you constantly or try to damage your reputation. They will let you know when they're concerned and do their best to stick up for you when you're in trouble.
6. A good friend makes it clear that they care about you.
Different people may have different ways of letting you know that they care about you. One person may give you a big hug whereas another person might gently tease you. A big clue that someone cares is that they talk to you fairly often and, in general, know what's going on in your life and act interested about it.
7. A good friend sticks with you in good times and bad.
Loyalty is a quality almost everyone lists when asked what they look for in a friend. A loyal friend will stick with you when your new play is a flop, when you bomb the SATs or when your parents get divorced. If you move or switch schools, they'll do their best to stay in touch with you.
8. A good friend accepts you for who you are, even when you're being a butthead.
In friendship, being accepting goes hand in hand with being loyal. A true friend rolls with the punches as you grow and change and know how to deal with your quirks and faults.
They are also patient with you when you make mistakes -- even big ones -- and learn how to forgive you when you hurt them. In other words, they treat you as you'd like to be treated, even when you aren't at your best.
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How To Deal with a Jealous Friend
Bagaimana Cara Mengatasi Teman Yang Cemburuan
(Terjemahan Indonesia di bagian bawah)
Dealing with a jealous friend isn't easy. It can be downright frustrating. Find out how to make the best of the situation, be fair to yourself and your friend, and, if possible, preserve the friendship. It can be done!
Difficulty: Hard
Time Required: A lot of time and patience.
Here's How:
1. Try to find out why your friend is jealous. Is it something you said? Is it something you have little or no control over, such as your looks or your family? Is it something your friend should be supportive of, such as your grades or a special talent of yours?
2. Once you know where the jealousy comes from, try to be empathetic: Imagine you're your friend or how you'd feel in the same situation.
3. Find out what your friend really wants to have. Do they wish they felt smarter or had more supportive parents? Maybe you can be helpful. Let them know that you believe in them and ask what you can do help them get what they want.
4. Try not to brag, show off or make things that would make your friend feel frustrated. This will only fan the flames of the jealousy.
5. Show that you're happy about your life, but be sure to show interest and excitement about things going on in your friend's life, too. Take some time to point out some of their unique strengths and good qualities.
6. Sometimes jealousy is mixed with a lot of anger. If your efforts to listen to your friend and encourage them aren't working, give them some time to cool off. They may need to work out their feelings alone or with someone who's not the object of their jealousy.
7. Recruit some extra support for yourself, too: Another friend, a relative or a girlfriend/boyfriend may be able to help you sort out your feelings about being the object of your friend's jealousy. A lot of people feel bad about making someone else jealous, so be sure to remind yourself why you're a good person, too!
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(Terjemahan Indonesia di bagian bawah)
Dealing with a jealous friend isn't easy. It can be downright frustrating. Find out how to make the best of the situation, be fair to yourself and your friend, and, if possible, preserve the friendship. It can be done!
Difficulty: Hard
Time Required: A lot of time and patience.
Here's How:
1. Try to find out why your friend is jealous. Is it something you said? Is it something you have little or no control over, such as your looks or your family? Is it something your friend should be supportive of, such as your grades or a special talent of yours?
2. Once you know where the jealousy comes from, try to be empathetic: Imagine you're your friend or how you'd feel in the same situation.
3. Find out what your friend really wants to have. Do they wish they felt smarter or had more supportive parents? Maybe you can be helpful. Let them know that you believe in them and ask what you can do help them get what they want.
4. Try not to brag, show off or make things that would make your friend feel frustrated. This will only fan the flames of the jealousy.
5. Show that you're happy about your life, but be sure to show interest and excitement about things going on in your friend's life, too. Take some time to point out some of their unique strengths and good qualities.
6. Sometimes jealousy is mixed with a lot of anger. If your efforts to listen to your friend and encourage them aren't working, give them some time to cool off. They may need to work out their feelings alone or with someone who's not the object of their jealousy.
7. Recruit some extra support for yourself, too: Another friend, a relative or a girlfriend/boyfriend may be able to help you sort out your feelings about being the object of your friend's jealousy. A lot of people feel bad about making someone else jealous, so be sure to remind yourself why you're a good person, too!
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Friday, December 4, 2009
Six Friendship Rules to Live By
6 Aturan Persahabatan Yang Harus Dijalani
(Terjemahan Indonesia Di Bagian Bawah)
Being friends through thick and thin is no small feat. Make your friendships deeper and stronger with this list of friendship tips.
(Terjemahan Indonesia Di Bagian Bawah)
Being friends through thick and thin is no small feat. Make your friendships deeper and stronger with this list of friendship tips.
Thursday, December 3, 2009
How To Be Friends with an Ex
Tips Berteman Dengan Mantan Pacar
(Terjemahan Indonesia Di Bagian Bawah)
Things weren't right with your girlfriend or boyfriend, so you broke up. But you still care about them and want to be friends. Sometimes this is possible. Here are some tips on how to be friends with your ex.
Difficulty: Hard
Time Required: A lot of time and patience
Here's How:
1. Make sure you're over them. Even if you're going to be the best of friends, you both still need some time to collect yourself after breaking up.
2. Make sure your intentions are good. Being "friends" with an ex just to torment them or to prevent them from dating other people doesn't help anyone in the long run. In fact, it makes you look really bad.
3. Check in on them. Send a friendly text message or call them on their birthday. Ask them how things are going. Find out what's new in their life and how they've changed since you dated. Be supportive of their individuality.
4. Let them know that you feel positive about them as a person and that you'd like to be friends with them -- real friends. If you were there for them as a girlfriend or boyfriend, you can be there for them as a friend, too.
5. Tell them that you think they're great and that, for the most part, you wouldn't change a thing about them. (Well, unless they're doing something really mean or stupid.) An ego boost can help mend some of the leftover wounds from the breakup.
6. Avoid sexual and romantic topics -- and the temptation to flirt -- especially when you're starting the friendship. This can be tricky if you have been involved with someone romantically, but you can do it if you stay focused. You don't want to lead the other person on, and you certainly don't want them to lead you on either.
7. At first, keep your conversations and meetings short and, if possible, fun. Remind them just how great you are to hang out with. However, set limits for how often you'll talk to them and hang out with them.
8. Keep working toward your own goals. Don't fall back into negative old patterns from the relationship. Develop your own interests and encourage your ex to do the same.
9. If your ex doesn't seem interested in a friendship, you need to respect their wishes. It may be a possibility in the future, but for now, focus on your other friends.
10. Also, if your ex is not treating you with the same respect you expect of any other friend, it's not a good time to pursue a friendship with them.
Tips:
1. Tell a good friend about your efforts to be friends with your ex and ask them to look out for you. (Hopefully you won't need to ask!)
2. Be friendly, kind and consistent with your ex. Remind them often that you're glad they're a part of your life.
3. Don't blow them off to hang out with your new crush. In general, be aware that they might still be feeling a bit sensitive about some aspect of the breakup and feel weird about you seeing other people.
4. It's quite possible that your ex may not be up for a friendship. Be forgiving and move on if this is the ca
(Terjemahan Indonesia Di Bagian Bawah)
Things weren't right with your girlfriend or boyfriend, so you broke up. But you still care about them and want to be friends. Sometimes this is possible. Here are some tips on how to be friends with your ex.
Difficulty: Hard
Time Required: A lot of time and patience
Here's How:
1. Make sure you're over them. Even if you're going to be the best of friends, you both still need some time to collect yourself after breaking up.
2. Make sure your intentions are good. Being "friends" with an ex just to torment them or to prevent them from dating other people doesn't help anyone in the long run. In fact, it makes you look really bad.
3. Check in on them. Send a friendly text message or call them on their birthday. Ask them how things are going. Find out what's new in their life and how they've changed since you dated. Be supportive of their individuality.
4. Let them know that you feel positive about them as a person and that you'd like to be friends with them -- real friends. If you were there for them as a girlfriend or boyfriend, you can be there for them as a friend, too.
5. Tell them that you think they're great and that, for the most part, you wouldn't change a thing about them. (Well, unless they're doing something really mean or stupid.) An ego boost can help mend some of the leftover wounds from the breakup.
6. Avoid sexual and romantic topics -- and the temptation to flirt -- especially when you're starting the friendship. This can be tricky if you have been involved with someone romantically, but you can do it if you stay focused. You don't want to lead the other person on, and you certainly don't want them to lead you on either.
7. At first, keep your conversations and meetings short and, if possible, fun. Remind them just how great you are to hang out with. However, set limits for how often you'll talk to them and hang out with them.
8. Keep working toward your own goals. Don't fall back into negative old patterns from the relationship. Develop your own interests and encourage your ex to do the same.
9. If your ex doesn't seem interested in a friendship, you need to respect their wishes. It may be a possibility in the future, but for now, focus on your other friends.
10. Also, if your ex is not treating you with the same respect you expect of any other friend, it's not a good time to pursue a friendship with them.
Tips:
1. Tell a good friend about your efforts to be friends with your ex and ask them to look out for you. (Hopefully you won't need to ask!)
2. Be friendly, kind and consistent with your ex. Remind them often that you're glad they're a part of your life.
3. Don't blow them off to hang out with your new crush. In general, be aware that they might still be feeling a bit sensitive about some aspect of the breakup and feel weird about you seeing other people.
4. It's quite possible that your ex may not be up for a friendship. Be forgiving and move on if this is the ca
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