Sometimes your mom and dad can be really frustrating, unfair or even humiliating, which may make you more likely to argue with them. How can you keep your temper in check and prevent fights with your parents when they're are getting on your nerves? Read on for some helpful tips.
Difficulty: Hard
Time Required: 15-60 minutes, plus lots of patience
Here's How:
1. Slow down and think.
Taking things a bit slower lets you recognize and sort through your feelings as they happen. If you can recognize that you're feeling annoyed or angry, you may be better able to keep yourself from taking it out on Mom or Dad.
2.Count to 10.
This is another method for getting yourself to slow down and think about how you feel before you act. Take a deep breath, count slowly, then ask yourself how you feel and why. You may realize that it's not the best time to criticize your Dad's opinion, for example, and help yourself out by picking a better time to discuss your point of view with him.
3. Think of a way that your parents have helped or pleased you.
Everyone acts like a monster sometimes and an angel at others. Try to remember a time when your parents were being as wonderful as ever to balance out the negative feeling you're having about them at the moment.
4.Remind yourself that fighting usually doesn't solve problems.
You may not be feeling particularly rational, but try to use your head: Will picking a fight help resolve the situation at hand, or is there perhaps a better way? How can you address the issue calmly and with a clear head?
5.Don't be so hard on yourself.
So your dad's angry about your grades or your mom doesn't like your boyfriend or girlfriend. They're entitled to their opinions, but their opinions don't make you a bad person. You're allowed to have your own opinions, too. Use them wisely.
6. Consider what else is going on in your parents' lives.
Does your dad have the flu? Is your mom overworked? If they're behaving badly, it's no excuse, but it does give you some insight into why they might be more difficult than usual to get along with at the moment. Try to cut 'em some slack.
7.Consider what else is going on in your own life.
Are you not feeling well or reeling from a fight with a friend? Cut yourself some slack, too. Don't let your feelings about other events and people color how you treat your family members -- or anyone else, for that matter. You'd probably hate it if they did that to you, right?
8.Politely remind others that you need a little space.
If you can, calmly let your parents know you're feeling frustrated or moody and that it might be best for them to bring up touchy issues at another time. If they're not cooperating, try to set a time and place to talk later, when you're in a better mood.
Tips:
1. All fights can't be avoided, and sometimes a fight is needed to work out an issue. However, you should be proud of yourself when you succeed in keeping your emotions in check: It's a tough skill but a useful one.
2. Remember, your parents are people, too -- people who make mistakes, just like you.
3. If you can, find another way of getting out your anger and frustration, such as exercise, art or music. You may find that it improves your relationships with others and/or makes you a calmer person in general.
Monday, December 7, 2009
How To Disagree with Your Parents Respectfully
Tips on presenting yourself calmly and maturely in a family argument
Being respectful and tactful when disagreeing with a parent or another family member can go a long way. Here are a few quick tips on how to disagree in a mature way without feeling like a doormat:
1. Think before you speak: Don't let angry words fly out of your mouth if you don't mean them. Otherwise, you'll have a lot of cleanup to do later.
2. Put yourself in the other person's shoes: How would you feel if you were your mom or dad? Where are they coming from in this situation? Have they got a point?
3. Listen: Maybe the person you're disagreeing with isn't as off-base or unfair as you think. Hear them out, then decide how to approach the situation.
4. Focus on needs rather than conflict: Be clear about what you need rather than focusing on why you disagree. Stress to the other person that you want to come up with a solution with them rather than work against them.
5. Use "I" rather than "You": In particular, use specific "I" statements rather than general "you" statements. For example, saying "I feel really bad about myself when you talk about my math grades in front of the neighbors" is more effective than "You make other people think I'm stupid!"
6. Steer clear of personal attacks: Don't tell your dad he's a jerk; tell him that his opinion matters to you, then explain why you don't see eye to eye.
7. Try to stay calm: If you find yourself getting too angry or frustrated, don't hesitate to ask for some time to cool off. If you can, arrange a different time to discuss the issue with your parents.
Being respectful and tactful when disagreeing with a parent or another family member can go a long way. Here are a few quick tips on how to disagree in a mature way without feeling like a doormat:
1. Think before you speak: Don't let angry words fly out of your mouth if you don't mean them. Otherwise, you'll have a lot of cleanup to do later.
2. Put yourself in the other person's shoes: How would you feel if you were your mom or dad? Where are they coming from in this situation? Have they got a point?
3. Listen: Maybe the person you're disagreeing with isn't as off-base or unfair as you think. Hear them out, then decide how to approach the situation.
4. Focus on needs rather than conflict: Be clear about what you need rather than focusing on why you disagree. Stress to the other person that you want to come up with a solution with them rather than work against them.
5. Use "I" rather than "You": In particular, use specific "I" statements rather than general "you" statements. For example, saying "I feel really bad about myself when you talk about my math grades in front of the neighbors" is more effective than "You make other people think I'm stupid!"
6. Steer clear of personal attacks: Don't tell your dad he's a jerk; tell him that his opinion matters to you, then explain why you don't see eye to eye.
7. Try to stay calm: If you find yourself getting too angry or frustrated, don't hesitate to ask for some time to cool off. If you can, arrange a different time to discuss the issue with your parents.
How To Make Friends at a New School
(Terjemahan Indonesia di bagian bawah)
You're about to start a new school and want to make friends there. What do you do? Here are some tips on how to meet people and make friends at a new school and how to adjust to your new surroundings.
Difficulty: Average
Time Required: 30 minutes per day -- more if you can
Here's How:
1. Be as confident as you can, but avoid being pushy or cocky. There's nothing that attracts people more than someone who's secure in who they are and has a fairly positive attitude about life in general and other people's ideas, too.
2. Smile and laugh. It sounds like a no-brainer, but it really works: Make eye contact with others, smile at them when they look at you, and laugh when they say something that's funny or amusing to you. It's a great conversation starter, and it makes you seem friendly and approachable.
3. Invite others to do things. In a lot of cases, you'll need to make the first move to find potential friends. Ask some people to share a table at lunch or study hall, borrow or lend a sheet of notebook paper, ask someone to be your volleyball partner in gym class -- you get the idea. Once you've found a few people you like, ask them to grab a bit to eat or play video games after school.
4. Join some clubs and activities. A new school and a new group of classmates offer a great opportunities to explore some new interests. Try out for a school play or sports team, join the yearbook committee or try attending a few school-sponsored volunteer activities through groups such as Key Club or Circle K. You're virtually guaranteed to meet people who share your interests -- and are looking to make new friends, too.
5. Have an opinion. Are you a die-hard fan of the Chicago Bears or "Gossip Girl"? Are you passionate about helping the homeless or preventing destruction of the rainforest? Speak up. Offer your opinions in class and share your unique viewpoints in conversation. As others what their opinions are. People will remember you in no time -- and want to talk to you and, most likely, hang out to get to know you better.
6. Remember people's names. Do your best to remember other people's names and interests. More importantly, don't be afraid to ask people more than once what their names are. Say something like, "I remember you said something really interesting about X yesterday and wanted to talk about it some more, but I'm new here and don't remember your name yet. Could you remind me what it is?"
Tips:
1. Give yourself a little pep talk before you approach new people: You're an interesting and unique person who'd make a great friend. That's an offer they can't refuse!
2. Point out things that you have in common with other people. Does the girl sitting next to you live in your neighborhood? Is the guy at the locker next to yours listening to the same things as you on his iPod? Introduce yourself, say that you're new, and ask them about themselves -- and the thing that you have in common.
3. Don't be too hard on yourself. Making new friends takes a lot of time and effort. Let things play out naturally and be patient. In the meantime, rely on your family and, if you can, friends from your old school or neighborhood until you get situated at your new school (and afterwards, too, of course).
4. Be a good listener. Being a good listener helps you relate better to other people, wins their confidence, and helps you be a better friend. It also shows that you're not self-centered.
5. Be sensitive to others' strengths, weaknesses and needs. Don't make friends by picking on other people's flaws: It will most likely come back to haunt you. It's more helpful to focus on what other people are good at and find ways you can help balance out their weaker areas. For instance, is a classmate nervous about the next science test? Offer to study with them or tell them about a time you were nervous about a test but succeeded (and that they can succeed, too).
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You're about to start a new school and want to make friends there. What do you do? Here are some tips on how to meet people and make friends at a new school and how to adjust to your new surroundings.
Difficulty: Average
Time Required: 30 minutes per day -- more if you can
Here's How:
1. Be as confident as you can, but avoid being pushy or cocky. There's nothing that attracts people more than someone who's secure in who they are and has a fairly positive attitude about life in general and other people's ideas, too.
2. Smile and laugh. It sounds like a no-brainer, but it really works: Make eye contact with others, smile at them when they look at you, and laugh when they say something that's funny or amusing to you. It's a great conversation starter, and it makes you seem friendly and approachable.
3. Invite others to do things. In a lot of cases, you'll need to make the first move to find potential friends. Ask some people to share a table at lunch or study hall, borrow or lend a sheet of notebook paper, ask someone to be your volleyball partner in gym class -- you get the idea. Once you've found a few people you like, ask them to grab a bit to eat or play video games after school.
4. Join some clubs and activities. A new school and a new group of classmates offer a great opportunities to explore some new interests. Try out for a school play or sports team, join the yearbook committee or try attending a few school-sponsored volunteer activities through groups such as Key Club or Circle K. You're virtually guaranteed to meet people who share your interests -- and are looking to make new friends, too.
5. Have an opinion. Are you a die-hard fan of the Chicago Bears or "Gossip Girl"? Are you passionate about helping the homeless or preventing destruction of the rainforest? Speak up. Offer your opinions in class and share your unique viewpoints in conversation. As others what their opinions are. People will remember you in no time -- and want to talk to you and, most likely, hang out to get to know you better.
6. Remember people's names. Do your best to remember other people's names and interests. More importantly, don't be afraid to ask people more than once what their names are. Say something like, "I remember you said something really interesting about X yesterday and wanted to talk about it some more, but I'm new here and don't remember your name yet. Could you remind me what it is?"
Tips:
1. Give yourself a little pep talk before you approach new people: You're an interesting and unique person who'd make a great friend. That's an offer they can't refuse!
2. Point out things that you have in common with other people. Does the girl sitting next to you live in your neighborhood? Is the guy at the locker next to yours listening to the same things as you on his iPod? Introduce yourself, say that you're new, and ask them about themselves -- and the thing that you have in common.
3. Don't be too hard on yourself. Making new friends takes a lot of time and effort. Let things play out naturally and be patient. In the meantime, rely on your family and, if you can, friends from your old school or neighborhood until you get situated at your new school (and afterwards, too, of course).
4. Be a good listener. Being a good listener helps you relate better to other people, wins their confidence, and helps you be a better friend. It also shows that you're not self-centered.
5. Be sensitive to others' strengths, weaknesses and needs. Don't make friends by picking on other people's flaws: It will most likely come back to haunt you. It's more helpful to focus on what other people are good at and find ways you can help balance out their weaker areas. For instance, is a classmate nervous about the next science test? Offer to study with them or tell them about a time you were nervous about a test but succeeded (and that they can succeed, too).
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How To Approach a Friend in Trouble
Cra Mendekati Teman yg sedang ada masalh
(Terjemahan Indonesia di bagian bawah)
Friends can struggle with all sorts of difficult issues: health troubles, eating disorders, drug problems, the loss of a parent or even depression. How should you approach a friend who seems troubled, especially if you're not exactly sure what's wrong?
Difficulty: Hard
Time Required: A lot: It depends what your friend needs and wants from you.
Here's How:
1. Make sure you have evidence that your friend has a problem. Have you noticed a major change in their behavior? Have other people witnessed any changes in their behavior or given you clues about what the problem might be? Or, is it possible that your friend is just in a bad mood?
2. If you have reason to believe your friend is in trouble, think of a genuine way to state your concern. A statement such as "I noticed you've been feeling kind of down lately and acting different from usual" could be a good starting point, just be sure you can back up your claim about a change in your friend's behavior. They're likely to ask you how they seem different.
3. Prepare yourself for a bad reaction from your friend: It's quite possible that they will deny having a problem, get defensive or feel embarrassed because they've been trying to hide the problem in an effort to seem normal to others.
4. If your friend is not willing to discuss the problem with you, tell them that you care about them and are willing to talk when they're ready.
5. Approach them again about the problem after a few days or weeks. Remind them again that you are ready to talk when they are and that no problem is too big or scary for your friendship. Your friend may fear that you will leave them if the problem is a serious one: Emphasize that you are ready to stay with them and stick up for them.
6. If your friend is willing to share details about the problem, listen calmly and carefully. As them how the problem began and how they are feeling about it. Ask them what you can do to help.
7. If necessary, encourage your friend to talk to a counselor, a doctor or a parent. Offer to go with them for moral support.
8. If your friend refuses to talk about the problem and it seems to be getting worse, you may need to ask a parent, teacher, counselor or someone your friend trusts very much for help.
Tips:
1. Do not jump to conclusions about what your friend's problem may be.
2. Avoid spreading gossip or starting rumors about what might be troubling your friend.
3. Unless the situation gets more serious, try to get your friend to talk about the problem with you before getting others involved.
4. However, if your friend threatens to hurt themself or someone else, you must call 911 or a suicide hotline, take them to a hospital, or at the very least tell an adult.
5. Remember, being there for your friend to listen and support them is the absolute best thing you can do for them!
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(Terjemahan Indonesia di bagian bawah)
Friends can struggle with all sorts of difficult issues: health troubles, eating disorders, drug problems, the loss of a parent or even depression. How should you approach a friend who seems troubled, especially if you're not exactly sure what's wrong?
Difficulty: Hard
Time Required: A lot: It depends what your friend needs and wants from you.
Here's How:
1. Make sure you have evidence that your friend has a problem. Have you noticed a major change in their behavior? Have other people witnessed any changes in their behavior or given you clues about what the problem might be? Or, is it possible that your friend is just in a bad mood?
2. If you have reason to believe your friend is in trouble, think of a genuine way to state your concern. A statement such as "I noticed you've been feeling kind of down lately and acting different from usual" could be a good starting point, just be sure you can back up your claim about a change in your friend's behavior. They're likely to ask you how they seem different.
3. Prepare yourself for a bad reaction from your friend: It's quite possible that they will deny having a problem, get defensive or feel embarrassed because they've been trying to hide the problem in an effort to seem normal to others.
4. If your friend is not willing to discuss the problem with you, tell them that you care about them and are willing to talk when they're ready.
5. Approach them again about the problem after a few days or weeks. Remind them again that you are ready to talk when they are and that no problem is too big or scary for your friendship. Your friend may fear that you will leave them if the problem is a serious one: Emphasize that you are ready to stay with them and stick up for them.
6. If your friend is willing to share details about the problem, listen calmly and carefully. As them how the problem began and how they are feeling about it. Ask them what you can do to help.
7. If necessary, encourage your friend to talk to a counselor, a doctor or a parent. Offer to go with them for moral support.
8. If your friend refuses to talk about the problem and it seems to be getting worse, you may need to ask a parent, teacher, counselor or someone your friend trusts very much for help.
Tips:
1. Do not jump to conclusions about what your friend's problem may be.
2. Avoid spreading gossip or starting rumors about what might be troubling your friend.
3. Unless the situation gets more serious, try to get your friend to talk about the problem with you before getting others involved.
4. However, if your friend threatens to hurt themself or someone else, you must call 911 or a suicide hotline, take them to a hospital, or at the very least tell an adult.
5. Remember, being there for your friend to listen and support them is the absolute best thing you can do for them!
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Sunday, December 6, 2009
How To Find True Friends
Bagaimana cara menemukan sahabat sejati
(Terjemahan Indonesia di bagian bawah)
8 Qualities of a Good Friend
What are the qualities of a good friend? True friendships can start instantly but they take time to build. Here are a few qualities to look for when making friends as a teen -- and beyond.
1. A good friend is honest.
A good friend may not share every detail of every second of their life, but they do try to be clear about their intentions. This means that they try to present an accurate picture of who they are and of different situations. When something doesn't seem right, they let you know.
2. A good friend is fun, unique and interesting.
OK, this is a given, and probably the reason you became friends in the first place. But there's a lot to be said for chemistry and shared interests.
As for fun, it depends how you define it: Some friends are fun because they're the life of the party, others are fun because they notice every strange little detail about a situation. Some people are fun simply because they see life like no one else does.
3. A good friend is attentive and adaptable.
A good friend is at least a fairly good listener and notices how little, day-to-day things affect you. They can't read your mind, but chances are they can usually tell when you're happy, sad, excited, shocked or upset. If they're aware that they're doing something that annoys you, they try to change their ways or at least talk to you about it.
4. A good friend is supportive of you and your goals.
Sure, your friend may think you're cool, but are they on the same page as you? Do they know what you want most out of life? A really good friend will know what makes you tick and help you become the person you want to be. They won't try to change who you are or drag you into situations that make you uncomfortable or put you at risk of losing something that matters to you.
5. A good friend is a friend you can trust.
A true friend won't try to steal your girlfriend or boyfriend, your job or your personality. They won't gossip about you constantly or try to damage your reputation. They will let you know when they're concerned and do their best to stick up for you when you're in trouble.
6. A good friend makes it clear that they care about you.
Different people may have different ways of letting you know that they care about you. One person may give you a big hug whereas another person might gently tease you. A big clue that someone cares is that they talk to you fairly often and, in general, know what's going on in your life and act interested about it.
7. A good friend sticks with you in good times and bad.
Loyalty is a quality almost everyone lists when asked what they look for in a friend. A loyal friend will stick with you when your new play is a flop, when you bomb the SATs or when your parents get divorced. If you move or switch schools, they'll do their best to stay in touch with you.
8. A good friend accepts you for who you are, even when you're being a butthead.
In friendship, being accepting goes hand in hand with being loyal. A true friend rolls with the punches as you grow and change and know how to deal with your quirks and faults.
They are also patient with you when you make mistakes -- even big ones -- and learn how to forgive you when you hurt them. In other words, they treat you as you'd like to be treated, even when you aren't at your best.
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(Terjemahan Indonesia di bagian bawah)
8 Qualities of a Good Friend
What are the qualities of a good friend? True friendships can start instantly but they take time to build. Here are a few qualities to look for when making friends as a teen -- and beyond.
1. A good friend is honest.
A good friend may not share every detail of every second of their life, but they do try to be clear about their intentions. This means that they try to present an accurate picture of who they are and of different situations. When something doesn't seem right, they let you know.
2. A good friend is fun, unique and interesting.
OK, this is a given, and probably the reason you became friends in the first place. But there's a lot to be said for chemistry and shared interests.
As for fun, it depends how you define it: Some friends are fun because they're the life of the party, others are fun because they notice every strange little detail about a situation. Some people are fun simply because they see life like no one else does.
3. A good friend is attentive and adaptable.
A good friend is at least a fairly good listener and notices how little, day-to-day things affect you. They can't read your mind, but chances are they can usually tell when you're happy, sad, excited, shocked or upset. If they're aware that they're doing something that annoys you, they try to change their ways or at least talk to you about it.
4. A good friend is supportive of you and your goals.
Sure, your friend may think you're cool, but are they on the same page as you? Do they know what you want most out of life? A really good friend will know what makes you tick and help you become the person you want to be. They won't try to change who you are or drag you into situations that make you uncomfortable or put you at risk of losing something that matters to you.
5. A good friend is a friend you can trust.
A true friend won't try to steal your girlfriend or boyfriend, your job or your personality. They won't gossip about you constantly or try to damage your reputation. They will let you know when they're concerned and do their best to stick up for you when you're in trouble.
6. A good friend makes it clear that they care about you.
Different people may have different ways of letting you know that they care about you. One person may give you a big hug whereas another person might gently tease you. A big clue that someone cares is that they talk to you fairly often and, in general, know what's going on in your life and act interested about it.
7. A good friend sticks with you in good times and bad.
Loyalty is a quality almost everyone lists when asked what they look for in a friend. A loyal friend will stick with you when your new play is a flop, when you bomb the SATs or when your parents get divorced. If you move or switch schools, they'll do their best to stay in touch with you.
8. A good friend accepts you for who you are, even when you're being a butthead.
In friendship, being accepting goes hand in hand with being loyal. A true friend rolls with the punches as you grow and change and know how to deal with your quirks and faults.
They are also patient with you when you make mistakes -- even big ones -- and learn how to forgive you when you hurt them. In other words, they treat you as you'd like to be treated, even when you aren't at your best.
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How To Deal with a Jealous Friend
Bagaimana Cara Mengatasi Teman Yang Cemburuan
(Terjemahan Indonesia di bagian bawah)
Dealing with a jealous friend isn't easy. It can be downright frustrating. Find out how to make the best of the situation, be fair to yourself and your friend, and, if possible, preserve the friendship. It can be done!
Difficulty: Hard
Time Required: A lot of time and patience.
Here's How:
1. Try to find out why your friend is jealous. Is it something you said? Is it something you have little or no control over, such as your looks or your family? Is it something your friend should be supportive of, such as your grades or a special talent of yours?
2. Once you know where the jealousy comes from, try to be empathetic: Imagine you're your friend or how you'd feel in the same situation.
3. Find out what your friend really wants to have. Do they wish they felt smarter or had more supportive parents? Maybe you can be helpful. Let them know that you believe in them and ask what you can do help them get what they want.
4. Try not to brag, show off or make things that would make your friend feel frustrated. This will only fan the flames of the jealousy.
5. Show that you're happy about your life, but be sure to show interest and excitement about things going on in your friend's life, too. Take some time to point out some of their unique strengths and good qualities.
6. Sometimes jealousy is mixed with a lot of anger. If your efforts to listen to your friend and encourage them aren't working, give them some time to cool off. They may need to work out their feelings alone or with someone who's not the object of their jealousy.
7. Recruit some extra support for yourself, too: Another friend, a relative or a girlfriend/boyfriend may be able to help you sort out your feelings about being the object of your friend's jealousy. A lot of people feel bad about making someone else jealous, so be sure to remind yourself why you're a good person, too!
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(Terjemahan Indonesia di bagian bawah)
Dealing with a jealous friend isn't easy. It can be downright frustrating. Find out how to make the best of the situation, be fair to yourself and your friend, and, if possible, preserve the friendship. It can be done!
Difficulty: Hard
Time Required: A lot of time and patience.
Here's How:
1. Try to find out why your friend is jealous. Is it something you said? Is it something you have little or no control over, such as your looks or your family? Is it something your friend should be supportive of, such as your grades or a special talent of yours?
2. Once you know where the jealousy comes from, try to be empathetic: Imagine you're your friend or how you'd feel in the same situation.
3. Find out what your friend really wants to have. Do they wish they felt smarter or had more supportive parents? Maybe you can be helpful. Let them know that you believe in them and ask what you can do help them get what they want.
4. Try not to brag, show off or make things that would make your friend feel frustrated. This will only fan the flames of the jealousy.
5. Show that you're happy about your life, but be sure to show interest and excitement about things going on in your friend's life, too. Take some time to point out some of their unique strengths and good qualities.
6. Sometimes jealousy is mixed with a lot of anger. If your efforts to listen to your friend and encourage them aren't working, give them some time to cool off. They may need to work out their feelings alone or with someone who's not the object of their jealousy.
7. Recruit some extra support for yourself, too: Another friend, a relative or a girlfriend/boyfriend may be able to help you sort out your feelings about being the object of your friend's jealousy. A lot of people feel bad about making someone else jealous, so be sure to remind yourself why you're a good person, too!
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Friday, December 4, 2009
Six Friendship Rules to Live By
6 Aturan Persahabatan Yang Harus Dijalani
(Terjemahan Indonesia Di Bagian Bawah)
Being friends through thick and thin is no small feat. Make your friendships deeper and stronger with this list of friendship tips.
(Terjemahan Indonesia Di Bagian Bawah)
Being friends through thick and thin is no small feat. Make your friendships deeper and stronger with this list of friendship tips.
How To Build Your Self-Esteem
Cara Membangun Rasa Bangga Terhadap Diri Sendiri
(Terjemahan Indonesia di bagian bawah)
It may sound a little cheesy, but feeling good about who you are -- that is, having a healthy amount of self-esteem and self-confidence -- is one of those things that will help make your life happier and more successful. Having confidence in yourself and your abilities goes a long way whether you're facing a tough decision, adapting to a new situation or standing up against peer pressure. Here are some tips on how to build your self-esteem.
1. Take a deep breath.
Staying relaxed and being laid-back in general can help you see the bigger picture and not sweat the small stuff so much. It's also a good frame of mind to be in when you're taking a close look at the things you're not so good at.
2. Take inventory of your strengths.
Everybody's good at something, and many people are good at quite a few things. Even if you don't have a talent or strength that you're aware of, you probably have some interests you can develop into strengths.
Make a list of a few things you're good at and a few things you're interested in and would like to be better at. Share this list with your parents, an aunt or uncle, or a teacher you like and trust. They can probably help you find other things you're good at, too, and help you come up with a plan for developing other skills and interests.
3. Realize your limits.
Nobody's perfect -- not even close. It may not always seem this way, but it's true. So if you weren't born a good singer, a super athlete or an "A" student, that's OK. You have a personality and a perspective on the world that's all your own and completely valuable -- even if you suck at basketball, have a big nose or look terrible in leggings.
4. Stop putting yourself down. Now!
One of the biggest things that keeps people from achieving their goals -- and feeling good about themselves -- is negative self-talk. In other words, telling yourself that you're a loser or a failure puts a big damper on your ability to get what you want and be who you want.
If you don't do well at a particular project or task, it doesn't mean that you never will. Perhaps you weren't prepared or the time simply wasn't right. It doesn't mean that you're a lousy human being or that you'll never succeed. It's OK to be upset for a bit when things don't go your way, but after a little while, let it go and move on. You'll be that much closer to achieving what you want if you do.
5. Celebrate progress and small victories.
Did you pass your driver's test or give a killer speech despite feeling nervous? Give credit where credit's due: You did it, and you rule! And guess what? You can tackle bigger, harder projects, too.
6. Pat yourself on the back every day.
Find a few small things that you did well each day. Whether it's waking up on time, smiling at the dorky hall monitor or sending a card to your grandmother, a lot of good can be accomplished in one day -- and it's something to take pride in.
(Terjemahan Indonesia di bagian bawah)
It may sound a little cheesy, but feeling good about who you are -- that is, having a healthy amount of self-esteem and self-confidence -- is one of those things that will help make your life happier and more successful. Having confidence in yourself and your abilities goes a long way whether you're facing a tough decision, adapting to a new situation or standing up against peer pressure. Here are some tips on how to build your self-esteem.
1. Take a deep breath.
Staying relaxed and being laid-back in general can help you see the bigger picture and not sweat the small stuff so much. It's also a good frame of mind to be in when you're taking a close look at the things you're not so good at.
2. Take inventory of your strengths.
Everybody's good at something, and many people are good at quite a few things. Even if you don't have a talent or strength that you're aware of, you probably have some interests you can develop into strengths.
Make a list of a few things you're good at and a few things you're interested in and would like to be better at. Share this list with your parents, an aunt or uncle, or a teacher you like and trust. They can probably help you find other things you're good at, too, and help you come up with a plan for developing other skills and interests.
3. Realize your limits.
Nobody's perfect -- not even close. It may not always seem this way, but it's true. So if you weren't born a good singer, a super athlete or an "A" student, that's OK. You have a personality and a perspective on the world that's all your own and completely valuable -- even if you suck at basketball, have a big nose or look terrible in leggings.
4. Stop putting yourself down. Now!
One of the biggest things that keeps people from achieving their goals -- and feeling good about themselves -- is negative self-talk. In other words, telling yourself that you're a loser or a failure puts a big damper on your ability to get what you want and be who you want.
If you don't do well at a particular project or task, it doesn't mean that you never will. Perhaps you weren't prepared or the time simply wasn't right. It doesn't mean that you're a lousy human being or that you'll never succeed. It's OK to be upset for a bit when things don't go your way, but after a little while, let it go and move on. You'll be that much closer to achieving what you want if you do.
5. Celebrate progress and small victories.
Did you pass your driver's test or give a killer speech despite feeling nervous? Give credit where credit's due: You did it, and you rule! And guess what? You can tackle bigger, harder projects, too.
6. Pat yourself on the back every day.
Find a few small things that you did well each day. Whether it's waking up on time, smiling at the dorky hall monitor or sending a card to your grandmother, a lot of good can be accomplished in one day -- and it's something to take pride in.
Thursday, December 3, 2009
How To Break Up With Someone
Cara Mutusin Pacar
(Terjemahan Indonesia Di Bagian Bawah)
You are in a relationship with someone that you are no longer romantically interested in. It's time to be honest.
Difficulty: Hard
Time Required: 60 minutes
Here's How:
1. Get alone with him/her. Don't do this on the phone!
2. Relax. You are doing the right thing...s/he needs to know the truth.
3. Tell him/her that you feel this relationship on its current level needs to end.
4. Give him/her some time to let it sink in.
5. If s/he tries to convince you to give him/her another chance, listen to him/her.
6. Tell him/her that you've made up your mind.
7. Tell him/her at what level you would like to keep your relationship (acquaintences, never-seens, friends, etc).
8. Listen to his/her response. Respect his/her feelings about this new level
9. Let him/her go when s/he feels s/he needs to end the conversation.
Tips:
1. Be honest. Although breakups can be really hard on relationships, honesty will salvage any possible future friendship.
2. When you've realized that you are no longer interested in this person, let him/her know. Don't drag out a pointless relationship.
3. Look at this like taking off a band-aid. Would you rather do it fast or slow? Which one hurts more?
(Terjemahan Indonesia Di Bagian Bawah)
You are in a relationship with someone that you are no longer romantically interested in. It's time to be honest.
Difficulty: Hard
Time Required: 60 minutes
Here's How:
1. Get alone with him/her. Don't do this on the phone!
2. Relax. You are doing the right thing...s/he needs to know the truth.
3. Tell him/her that you feel this relationship on its current level needs to end.
4. Give him/her some time to let it sink in.
5. If s/he tries to convince you to give him/her another chance, listen to him/her.
6. Tell him/her that you've made up your mind.
7. Tell him/her at what level you would like to keep your relationship (acquaintences, never-seens, friends, etc).
8. Listen to his/her response. Respect his/her feelings about this new level
9. Let him/her go when s/he feels s/he needs to end the conversation.
Tips:
1. Be honest. Although breakups can be really hard on relationships, honesty will salvage any possible future friendship.
2. When you've realized that you are no longer interested in this person, let him/her know. Don't drag out a pointless relationship.
3. Look at this like taking off a band-aid. Would you rather do it fast or slow? Which one hurts more?
7 Steps for Getting Over a Breakup
7 Langkah Mengobati Sakit Akibat Putus
(Terjemahan Indonesia Di Bagian Bawah)
Whether you just got dumped or you did the dumping, breaking up always hurts a whole lot. There's no quick fix to make the pain go away, but if you follow some key rules for getting over a breakup, things won't hurt so bad.
1. Realize That It's Over
The biggest breakup mistake you can make? Pretending that it didn't happen. You broke up for a good reason, and getting back together isn't an option. (Maybe it will be in a couple of years, when things have changed, but not now.) Until you accept this, you can't start healing.
2. Get Sad
You're allowed to give yourself a couple of days to mope around and cry. Tear up some love notes, sob to your friends, and write some poems (just don't publish anything online - you'll regret it later). Letting yourself be sad will do you better than bottling it all up. After the second day of moping, though, it's time to start snapping out of it.
3. Leave Your Ex Alone
You might want to call or text your ex, but resist the urge. You both need a little time apart from each other, or else you'll never stop hurting. In a couple of months, you might be ready to try out a friendship, but for now, try to avoid all contact.
4. Keep Yourself Busy
The worst way to get over an ex is to sit in your room all alone. Hang out with your friends and family, play some sports, hit the gym or dig into your favorite hobbies. It'll make you feel good and get your mind off of the breakup.
5. Force Yourself to Snap Out of It
After the initial loss, you won't be thinking about your ex nonstop like you used to, but you might find your thoughts trailing back to your breakup. Push those sad thoughts of your head and replace them with happy ones. There's no use dwelling on all the sad stuff forever.
6. Make a Change
Breakups can be good excuses for fresh starts. Make a fun change: give yourself a makeover, get into a new hobby, join a new after-school activity or redecorate your room. It'll make you feel happy and give you a big burst of confidence.
7. Let Time Go By
Time really does heal all wounds. The pain you're feeling now won't last forever, even if it feels like it will. So hang in there - it'll get easier. I promise.
(Terjemahan Indonesia Di Bagian Bawah)
Whether you just got dumped or you did the dumping, breaking up always hurts a whole lot. There's no quick fix to make the pain go away, but if you follow some key rules for getting over a breakup, things won't hurt so bad.
1. Realize That It's Over
The biggest breakup mistake you can make? Pretending that it didn't happen. You broke up for a good reason, and getting back together isn't an option. (Maybe it will be in a couple of years, when things have changed, but not now.) Until you accept this, you can't start healing.
2. Get Sad
You're allowed to give yourself a couple of days to mope around and cry. Tear up some love notes, sob to your friends, and write some poems (just don't publish anything online - you'll regret it later). Letting yourself be sad will do you better than bottling it all up. After the second day of moping, though, it's time to start snapping out of it.
3. Leave Your Ex Alone
You might want to call or text your ex, but resist the urge. You both need a little time apart from each other, or else you'll never stop hurting. In a couple of months, you might be ready to try out a friendship, but for now, try to avoid all contact.
4. Keep Yourself Busy
The worst way to get over an ex is to sit in your room all alone. Hang out with your friends and family, play some sports, hit the gym or dig into your favorite hobbies. It'll make you feel good and get your mind off of the breakup.
5. Force Yourself to Snap Out of It
After the initial loss, you won't be thinking about your ex nonstop like you used to, but you might find your thoughts trailing back to your breakup. Push those sad thoughts of your head and replace them with happy ones. There's no use dwelling on all the sad stuff forever.
6. Make a Change
Breakups can be good excuses for fresh starts. Make a fun change: give yourself a makeover, get into a new hobby, join a new after-school activity or redecorate your room. It'll make you feel happy and give you a big burst of confidence.
7. Let Time Go By
Time really does heal all wounds. The pain you're feeling now won't last forever, even if it feels like it will. So hang in there - it'll get easier. I promise.
How To Be Friends with an Ex
Tips Berteman Dengan Mantan Pacar
(Terjemahan Indonesia Di Bagian Bawah)
Things weren't right with your girlfriend or boyfriend, so you broke up. But you still care about them and want to be friends. Sometimes this is possible. Here are some tips on how to be friends with your ex.
Difficulty: Hard
Time Required: A lot of time and patience
Here's How:
1. Make sure you're over them. Even if you're going to be the best of friends, you both still need some time to collect yourself after breaking up.
2. Make sure your intentions are good. Being "friends" with an ex just to torment them or to prevent them from dating other people doesn't help anyone in the long run. In fact, it makes you look really bad.
3. Check in on them. Send a friendly text message or call them on their birthday. Ask them how things are going. Find out what's new in their life and how they've changed since you dated. Be supportive of their individuality.
4. Let them know that you feel positive about them as a person and that you'd like to be friends with them -- real friends. If you were there for them as a girlfriend or boyfriend, you can be there for them as a friend, too.
5. Tell them that you think they're great and that, for the most part, you wouldn't change a thing about them. (Well, unless they're doing something really mean or stupid.) An ego boost can help mend some of the leftover wounds from the breakup.
6. Avoid sexual and romantic topics -- and the temptation to flirt -- especially when you're starting the friendship. This can be tricky if you have been involved with someone romantically, but you can do it if you stay focused. You don't want to lead the other person on, and you certainly don't want them to lead you on either.
7. At first, keep your conversations and meetings short and, if possible, fun. Remind them just how great you are to hang out with. However, set limits for how often you'll talk to them and hang out with them.
8. Keep working toward your own goals. Don't fall back into negative old patterns from the relationship. Develop your own interests and encourage your ex to do the same.
9. If your ex doesn't seem interested in a friendship, you need to respect their wishes. It may be a possibility in the future, but for now, focus on your other friends.
10. Also, if your ex is not treating you with the same respect you expect of any other friend, it's not a good time to pursue a friendship with them.
Tips:
1. Tell a good friend about your efforts to be friends with your ex and ask them to look out for you. (Hopefully you won't need to ask!)
2. Be friendly, kind and consistent with your ex. Remind them often that you're glad they're a part of your life.
3. Don't blow them off to hang out with your new crush. In general, be aware that they might still be feeling a bit sensitive about some aspect of the breakup and feel weird about you seeing other people.
4. It's quite possible that your ex may not be up for a friendship. Be forgiving and move on if this is the ca
(Terjemahan Indonesia Di Bagian Bawah)
Things weren't right with your girlfriend or boyfriend, so you broke up. But you still care about them and want to be friends. Sometimes this is possible. Here are some tips on how to be friends with your ex.
Difficulty: Hard
Time Required: A lot of time and patience
Here's How:
1. Make sure you're over them. Even if you're going to be the best of friends, you both still need some time to collect yourself after breaking up.
2. Make sure your intentions are good. Being "friends" with an ex just to torment them or to prevent them from dating other people doesn't help anyone in the long run. In fact, it makes you look really bad.
3. Check in on them. Send a friendly text message or call them on their birthday. Ask them how things are going. Find out what's new in their life and how they've changed since you dated. Be supportive of their individuality.
4. Let them know that you feel positive about them as a person and that you'd like to be friends with them -- real friends. If you were there for them as a girlfriend or boyfriend, you can be there for them as a friend, too.
5. Tell them that you think they're great and that, for the most part, you wouldn't change a thing about them. (Well, unless they're doing something really mean or stupid.) An ego boost can help mend some of the leftover wounds from the breakup.
6. Avoid sexual and romantic topics -- and the temptation to flirt -- especially when you're starting the friendship. This can be tricky if you have been involved with someone romantically, but you can do it if you stay focused. You don't want to lead the other person on, and you certainly don't want them to lead you on either.
7. At first, keep your conversations and meetings short and, if possible, fun. Remind them just how great you are to hang out with. However, set limits for how often you'll talk to them and hang out with them.
8. Keep working toward your own goals. Don't fall back into negative old patterns from the relationship. Develop your own interests and encourage your ex to do the same.
9. If your ex doesn't seem interested in a friendship, you need to respect their wishes. It may be a possibility in the future, but for now, focus on your other friends.
10. Also, if your ex is not treating you with the same respect you expect of any other friend, it's not a good time to pursue a friendship with them.
Tips:
1. Tell a good friend about your efforts to be friends with your ex and ask them to look out for you. (Hopefully you won't need to ask!)
2. Be friendly, kind and consistent with your ex. Remind them often that you're glad they're a part of your life.
3. Don't blow them off to hang out with your new crush. In general, be aware that they might still be feeling a bit sensitive about some aspect of the breakup and feel weird about you seeing other people.
4. It's quite possible that your ex may not be up for a friendship. Be forgiving and move on if this is the ca
10 Easy Flirt Tips
10 Cara Mudah PDKT
(Terjemahan Indonesia Di Bagian Bawah)
Flirting's a language - and just like with any other language, no one's born a fluent flirt. If you want to know how to flirt like a pro, you've got to learn the signs. Follow these flirt tips and practice till you're an expert flirt.
1. Choose Your Targets
You don't have to have a crush on someone in order to flirt. Practice flirting with random people you see every day - people who might not even be on your dating radar - on order to hone your skills. That way, you'll have some flirting experience under your belt when you approach the people who really matter.
2. Have an Opening Line
Find a reason to talk to the person. If you're in a class with them, come up with a question about an assignment. If they're standing in line behind you at a concert, ask about the band. Get creative, and be ready to respond to whatever they say.
3. Make Eye Contact
If you don't make eye contact, you'll look bored or uninterested, and that's not an impression you want to give. Too shy to look them right in the eyes? Here's a trick: look at the spot right between their eyes. It'll look like eye contact to them.
4. Come Up With a Compliment
Pick one thing you like about the way they look - like their hair, their smile or an article of clothing. Let them know in a friendly way how much you like it. It'll make them feel good and will open them up to you. (If you can't think of an opening line for tip #2, a compliment will do.)
5. Smile
You don't have to go all Bozo the Clown, but the idea is to look like you enjoy talking to them. So be sure to throw them a smile whenever it makes sense. If they shoot one back, you'll know that they like talking to you, too.
6. Flirt With Your Body
The body language you use when you flirt is just as important as what you say. Use good posture, point your body towards the person and try to find excuses to touch them. For more on how to do that, check these body language flirting tips.
7. Keep It Light
You'll get a way better response if you chat about fun, happy stuff (like your new puppy) than serious or sad stuff (like when your puppy got hit by a train). The point of flirting isn't to bare your soul or share your honest opinions about everything. It's to open the door to lots more conversations down the road.
8. Beware of Awkward Silences
Once the convo drags, it's probably gone for good. Fill an awkward silence by asking the other person a question. Can't think of one? Ask them about something they're wearing or something in your environment (like a painting on the wall, or the music that's playing).
9. Wrap It Up
If you're not interested in talking anymore, politely find an excuse to head off into the sunset. If you are interested, give them a way to get in touch with you - like your phone number or Facebook name. This is (hopefully) just your first convo of many, so save some of that charm for the next time.
10. Practice, Practice, Practice
No one's perfect at flirting the first time around. If the idea of flirting still gives you butterflies, don't worry - it just means that you need more practice. The more you flirt, the easier it'll get.
Terjemahan Bebas
(Terjemahan Indonesia Di Bagian Bawah)
Flirting's a language - and just like with any other language, no one's born a fluent flirt. If you want to know how to flirt like a pro, you've got to learn the signs. Follow these flirt tips and practice till you're an expert flirt.
1. Choose Your Targets
You don't have to have a crush on someone in order to flirt. Practice flirting with random people you see every day - people who might not even be on your dating radar - on order to hone your skills. That way, you'll have some flirting experience under your belt when you approach the people who really matter.
2. Have an Opening Line
Find a reason to talk to the person. If you're in a class with them, come up with a question about an assignment. If they're standing in line behind you at a concert, ask about the band. Get creative, and be ready to respond to whatever they say.
3. Make Eye Contact
If you don't make eye contact, you'll look bored or uninterested, and that's not an impression you want to give. Too shy to look them right in the eyes? Here's a trick: look at the spot right between their eyes. It'll look like eye contact to them.
4. Come Up With a Compliment
Pick one thing you like about the way they look - like their hair, their smile or an article of clothing. Let them know in a friendly way how much you like it. It'll make them feel good and will open them up to you. (If you can't think of an opening line for tip #2, a compliment will do.)
5. Smile
You don't have to go all Bozo the Clown, but the idea is to look like you enjoy talking to them. So be sure to throw them a smile whenever it makes sense. If they shoot one back, you'll know that they like talking to you, too.
6. Flirt With Your Body
The body language you use when you flirt is just as important as what you say. Use good posture, point your body towards the person and try to find excuses to touch them. For more on how to do that, check these body language flirting tips.
7. Keep It Light
You'll get a way better response if you chat about fun, happy stuff (like your new puppy) than serious or sad stuff (like when your puppy got hit by a train). The point of flirting isn't to bare your soul or share your honest opinions about everything. It's to open the door to lots more conversations down the road.
8. Beware of Awkward Silences
Once the convo drags, it's probably gone for good. Fill an awkward silence by asking the other person a question. Can't think of one? Ask them about something they're wearing or something in your environment (like a painting on the wall, or the music that's playing).
9. Wrap It Up
If you're not interested in talking anymore, politely find an excuse to head off into the sunset. If you are interested, give them a way to get in touch with you - like your phone number or Facebook name. This is (hopefully) just your first convo of many, so save some of that charm for the next time.
10. Practice, Practice, Practice
No one's perfect at flirting the first time around. If the idea of flirting still gives you butterflies, don't worry - it just means that you need more practice. The more you flirt, the easier it'll get.
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